Showing posts with label men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label men. Show all posts

Monday, December 5, 2011

How To Tell a Guy You Like Him Without Scaring Him Off

Well, generally, girls are hesitant to confess their love for someone as compared to the guys. Many times, they fall short of words to tell him that they actually love him! Some girls have a fear of being rejected while some others are too shy to talk about love. But, all girls need to understand that whether today or after a few days, you will have to talk on this issue in your life. So, why postpone things unnecessarily, when you have the opportunity to do them immediately? Also, postponing proposing to a guy can create many problems; like he may be unaware of your feelings and he may start a relationship with some other girl. Thus, being frank with him will indeed be helpful for your future. So, go through the useful suggestions on how to tell a guy you like him for your own benefit.




How to Propose to your Boyfriend?

The day you will be telling your guy that you love him, would be the biggest and most important day of your life. So, you should plan for this day in advance and prepare yourself fully. You can consider the idea of inviting him to a popular restaurant or a silent place like a garden for the same. Wear the best clothes you have to look good and reach the spot before time. When your guy arrives at the venue, welcome him with an affectionate hug. You should greet him with a smiling face and be confident in your actions.

Now, look for a nice spot where the two of you find the peace you need and start the conversation right away. Start by telling the guy how you felt when you first met him. Help him recall what all happened when you first met. Reminisce those special moments, funny incidents and time you spent together and thoroughly enjoyed. Tell him what you like about him and what is his place in your life. Be as romantic as possible and now smartly shift the focus of your conversation to relationships. Start discussing on how an ideal husband or wife should be and listen to his views on the same. Now, it would be the right time to say that vial final sentence ‘I love you’! Hold your partner’s hand and by looking into his eyes, tell him how much you love him. For expressing your love, one of those cute love quotes can come to your help, if you are finding it difficult to word your emotions. Here is what you can say at this important moment of your life:

I think of you all day and night,
I become happy on your sight,
My life is complete only with you,
I would forget the rest of the world, only for you!


So, this is the ideal answer to your question-how to tell a guy you like him. Be honest in expressing your feelings as something heartfelt, when expressed at the right time is sure to reach his heart. Once he knows what you feel for him and if he bears similar feelings for you, you can think of taking your relationship to another level. Now, if you are too shy to speak directly, you can go with the conventional way of saying I love you with the help of love letters and beautiful greeting cards. Also, send a nice gift for him along with the cards which will be a token of your love for him. Though there is no wrong in doing so, your guy would appreciate it if you can say the same thing verbally. Remember, guys of today’s generation like confident, smart and outgoing girls rather than the quiet, shy and homely ones. Guys, who want to propose to their girlfriends can read how to tell a girl you like her.

I know that giving tips on how to tell a guy you like him is far more easy than actually doing so. But, by following these suggestions, you will definitely proceed in the right way and emerge victorious in the game of love. At this point, I would like to conclude by wishing you all the best for your love life!

Alon

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Top 10 First Date Tips for Men

Courting a lady isn't as straight forward as it used to be. Back in the day, dating etiquette was well-established and everybody played by the same rules. Men would open doors for women, help them with their coats, and have them home by nine. Couples would go to the soda shop for the first date, to the drive in for the second, up to "old make out point" for the third, and would most likely be getting married on the fourth.

The rules of the road have changed. Somewhere between Say Anything, and MTV's Next bus, we throw out the rulebook completely and just started winging it. Our individual quests for love and sex have become as varied and strange as life itself. This was a good and necessary change, but it has made dating... well, terrifying. Without any concrete guidelines, how is the novice romantic supposed to navigate those first few dates?

It's not so hard, really. As far as dating goes, the one thing that hasn't changed over the years is the simple fact that guys should be gentlemen. What follows are some suggested guidelines to help you be a true gentleman despite the weird modern reality in which we find ourselves.


bad first date

  1. Don't take her out to dinner on the first date
    These days, the most popular first date is the weeknight 'getting-a-couple-drinks' date. And, for good reason. It's non-committal, relatively brief by necessity, and the drinks help to calm everybody's nerves. So, don't try to impress with a 4-star restaurant when you barely know the person. This way, you'll keep your wallet intact and she won't feel beholden. Plus, if the sparks don't fly, it's easy to retire the evening early.
  2. Hug her at the beginning of the date
    Breaking down the physical barrier at the beginning of the date makes the rest of the date so much easier. At the beginning of the date, give her a hug, and tell her how delightful she looks. Also, by showing your attraction to her early on, you free her to reciprocate gestures of attraction throughout the date, making it easier for you to judge how well the date is going.
  3. Look your best
    Well, duh. But, a lot of the times when guys try to dress up for a date, they end up wearing something they aren't truly comfortable in. You should dress up a little, sure, but, try to wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. If you don't have any clothes that make you feel like George Clooney in Ocean's 11, go out and find some.
  4. Be a class act
    Chivalry may be dead, but she'll like you more if you try to revive it just a little. Open the door for her, pull out her chair, support her on icy sidewalks, etc... Despite the obvious self sufficiency of the modern woman, courtesy is still courtesy. A dash of chivalry shows your attraction and ability to protect and nurture. But, it's important not to take this too far. You don't want to seem old fashion, or as though you're trying real hard to impress. Just be be a good, considerate guy who knows the pleasure of treating a lady as such.
  5. Compliment her and others
    When you're on a date it's good to toss out a few genuine compliments. But, unless you're Dennis Leary, you probably already knew that... So, let me say that it's a good idea, not only to compliment your date, but to also talk nicely about people that you both know, or people that you've met throughout the night. By projecting kindness towards people that aren't around, you'll show that you tend to see the positive side of things, which is a very attractive characteristic.
  6. Embrace your inner weird
    A lot of people tend to go all glossy on dates. Sort of like a job interview, you really just want to seem appealing. This is a mistake. First, you actually become less attractive by paving over what sets you apart... But, more importantly, if you highlight your idiosyncrasies, you've got a better shot of finding a girl that compliments you, and tolerates your obsession with minimalist free jazz .
  7. Change your sheets
    Be prepared... The Boy Scouts know what they're talking about. When you go out on a date with someone, there is always the possibility that you'll end up back at your place. So, change the sheets, and get rid of any debris that is usually strewn about. If, in the end, the date was totally awkward, at least you've got a clean place to come home to.
  8. Pay for the date
    That's right... Beyond it being a kind gesture, offering to pay is a good way to get information on how the date is going. When the check comes, beware if she really does seem to want to pay her share. If she wants to pay, it's because she really doesn't want to feel obligated to you in any way shape or form. But, the single fake-wallet-grab is a good sign. Don't worry, she's gonna let you pay this time... She knows you're going to be eating all the ice cream out of her fridge in about two weeks :)
  9. Kiss Her
    If the first date has gone reasonably well, go for the kiss at some point towards the end. A so-so date that ends with a great kiss can = an awesome date. Sometimes you just gotta get the kiss out of the way before you can really feel comfortable with someone. So, man up and kiss her. Just do it. She'll be glad you did. Hopefully.
  10. Don't try to sleep with her
    Despite the advice from 20 seconds ago (you should still tidy up your place, it's starting to smell a little), having sex on a first date is not a good idea if you think you might want a relationship with the person. Studies have shown that people who have sex on a first date have a lot more trouble developing a good date into a relationship than those who are content delaying gratification. So, even if the date is going really, really well, don't push for the sleep over. After all, it's always nice to have something to look forward to, and, when all is said and done, she'll fancy you a gentleman.
So.. how was your first date?
tell us!

Alon

How to Ask Her Out..

Asking a girl out can be the toughest of propositions to make. However, nothing is impossible for a determined man, who is firm on his decision to ask her girl out. If you have already gathered enough guts to talk to her and get her number, it is time to take the next step and take your relationship to a more serious level. All said and done, you may be totally clueless as to how to ask her out. It may seem perfectly easy at first, but as you proceed towards it, you tend to develop cold feet! I bring you tips to ask a woman for a date. Read these and you shall see that asking a girl out is just a cake-walk.




Asking A Girl Out

  • Relax and look confident (even if you are not!). No woman likes a man who stutters and stammers while asking her out on a date. Your confidence will most certainly impress her. She will think that you are a man who is so sure of himself.
  • Ask her casually for a game or lunch. Do not utter the word "date" if you know she is going to freak out. You can simply mention that you are going to your favorite restaurant for lunch, and ask her if she would like to join you.
  • If she is skeptical about going out alone, mention that a couple of your friends are going too. She could bring her friends along if she wants to. It is very important for her to feel comfortable, and you should not mind some friendly disturbance for her convenience.
  • Be specific about plans. Don't leave her clueless as to where are you going to take her. Mention the name of the restaurant or hang-out zone you have planned to take her to. This will make her comfortable with the idea.
  • Do not push her if she is hesitant. You may blow off another chance that may be lurking in the corner. Patient wait as there is always a next chance. She will definitely say ‘yes’, once she has developed that confidence in you. Just that it may take some time!
  • Do not hit on her directly. Don't ask, "Would you like to go out with me?" Any woman would be taken aback at this sudden remark and may back out, much to your dislike.
  • Nothing is as bad as it looks. If she says ‘no’ this time, there is always a next time. So don't lose heart. Her ‘No’ shouldn't stop you from asking. You have to assure her that you are around and she can take her own sweet time. Strong decisions, as it as, are never taken impulsively.

How to Tell if She's Interested?

Understanding when a woman is flirting can be tough task for many guys. This article is about female body language.
I am sure you must have found it pretty difficult to understand the body language of a woman so as to know if she is flirting with you or not. These clues are the ones that will enable you to know if you will be able to get the woman’s number if you approach her.
If you get an expertise at understanding these signal, then you will be able to attract and improve your seduction methods. There are 8 fundamental signs which all women use to show their interest and attract towards you.


1. She is enjoying every moment
If you see a woman enjoying immensely with her friends, enjoying, giggling and laughing, but every time looking at you then it is certain that she is interested in you. She does that because she wants to give you an impression that she is a fun loving and happy kind of a person.
By enjoying the company of friends, she is telling you that she love socializing and is basically a gregarious person.
2.  Eye contact
If a woman makes an eye contact with you, it is the boldest form of showing interest in you. if the eye contact is for a longer duration, she is actively showing her interest in you.
Eye contact is not a very subtle way to flirt, it is pretty bold on the woman’s part to do so. So if you see a woman doing that, don’t ever doubt whether she is interested in you or not.
3. Vertical Scan Check Out
Women love to check out guys. The only difference is they do it in a subtler way than most of the guys.
If the woman scans a guy up and down, it is for sure that the woman is checking him out. This is also known as the ‘vertical scan’.
The vertical scan works like this. The woman looks at you face and moves to feet and finally to your heard. If she does this she is definitely interested in you and wants to know more about you.
4. A woman does the preening act
When a woman is aware that you are checking her out, she will put all efforts to look good. Her actions for looking good would be preening and smoothing her hair and clothes.
The above actions are not carried out consciously. They are kind of reflex action. They cannot be controlled by her. If she does this, you have interpret it as an invitation to you and you should approach her and strike a conversation with her.
Indication 5 – Open body language
Once you approach a woman, notice the flirting indications she gives you. these are classic signs used since ages. Once you notice them, it will be far more easy for you to strike a conversation and build a relationship with her.
The first classic indication is if she “opens herself” to you.
Body language of a woman will tell you all if she is open to you or not. It is the best way for a woman to show that she is attracted and interested in you. When open to you, her arms and wrists will be towards you.
6. Stroking her body
A woman stroking her body, especially her hair or neck is a sure indication of flirting. She might even stroke her thigh! This are definite indications of her flirtation because they are a manifestation of the thoughts that are sprouting up in her mind.
A woman touching her body, usually means that she is imagining you doing or touching her there.
7. Comes closer to you
To become more intimate with you, a woman will come closer to you while talking to you. Lowering of her voice is also an indication, which is done so that she can connect to you at a higher and deeper level.
Both of these gestures are a big indication that she is attracted to you and wants to come closet to you.
8.  Looks at your eyes and lips as if craving for them
A very good gesture to let you know that she wants to be kissed is when you looks longingly at your face.
If you come to know that a woman is looking to your mouth and eyes, she is giving you an invite to kiss her. So don’t hesitate and delay, get going and act…
Kiss her!
Once you start on the kissing note, you have taken a giant first step and can easily make things more intimate between you both